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Meanwhile one question, which I think all prospective Brides and Grooms may be asking, is:

How can I make my marriage work?

There is no easy answer to this, but I asked Jane Harris my Minister what she thought the answer may be.

To make it beyond tomorrow….and on, and on, and on?

The answer is simple, by devoting themselves to each other.

And what does devotion look like?

Often devoted couples have said one or more of The Four Keys have helped them to find lasting love.

The four keys are golden rules to remember and exercise daily for a marriage to work.

They are quite simply as follows:

Dare to Care.

Let your partner know that they are No. 1 in your life.

Take time to listen.

Show interest

Make time for each other

Listen carefully when he/she is talking

Try to see things from your partner’s point of view.

Be Open

Risk being honest about your feelings, needs and hurts

Talk about your hopes and fears

Talk about your day, especially if it’s been tough, and ask about your partner’s day.

Tell him or her what they do right; pay compliments.

Tell them the good things bout your love making together.

Give as Well as Take

Try always to meet your partner’s need before your own.

Be kind and respectful

Surprise him/her – breakfast in bed?

A happy welcome back from work

Write a note to say, “I love you” even when it’s not Valentine’s Day.

Be Peacemakers

All couples have disagreements. How do you hand the disagreement, rebuild trust and

love is often more important than the disagreement.

If you have had a row, you can rebuild love if you:

Don’t sulk and refuse to say anything

Don’t withdraw – say sorry to each other.

Are prepared to admit you were partly or completely to blame.

Speak kind words, Softly spoken can bring comfort – with a hug, even better. Make a cup of tea, sit close together and talk it through.

Jane also talked to me about ‘Marriage Preparation’, couples marrying in Church will probably have spoken to their Minister regarding this, if not, or if you are not marrying in Church why not phone for information about free Marriage Preparation in your area. Should you be unsure who to contact Jane Harris my Minister, said she would happy to speak to you on 01773 602994.